Monday, July 9, 2012

Proverbs 31 - week 9 - Wisdom and Kindness

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness" Prov 31: 26

Everyone cannot speak with wisdom every time they open their mouth. I am the first one to step forward to tell you that there are plenty of times where the "cat's outta the bag" before I shut mine. But the wise gain wisdom from God's Word and by seeking godly counsel. The bottom line though, in all the counsel in the world - is to be the Word. 

No matter what something may look like to someone else - you know what is best for your family. If you seek His face, if you are on your knees before the King of Kings - you can lead your family the right direction. You will stumble - there will be hardships and detours - but God is faithful. 

We have a situation in our home that is a culmination of several "problems". We have continually taken them to the Lord - as a matter of fact - they must be taken to Him daily and sometimes moment by moment. 

No one else knows what is best for our children or what they need - like we do. No one else knows what is best for your children or what they need - like you do. Trust those instincts that God gives and follow His lead. Again - seeking godly counsel is wise - but God's Word and the Holy Spirit must be the final say so!  

It's easy to be wise when things are hunky dory - it becomes more difficult when the waters are murky. Instruction with kindness after seeking God's face is the only way to get through some of life's tough times and is the way to approach life in general. God's love will show you through. 

1 Peter 4: 8 "Above all, love each other deeply, 
because love covers a multitude of sins" 

There will be times when you feel you have failed -  I know I have and I struggle with not being enough for my family. But you know what? God says I am. In all my weakness, in all my failures - God has put our family together and I am qualified to be their mother. 

If you put your trust in Him - if you gather your strength from Him - He will carry you through the fire. If you've made mistakes - you can turn and run to Him - the ultimate physician. This is what a wise woman does - this is what the Proverbs 31 woman does. 

Psalm 55: 22 "Cast your cares upon the Lord and He will sustain you;
 He will never let the righteous fall." 

We have challenges in our home that most will never fully understand - they will never see what we are faced with on a daily basis or understand what our family has been through. This battle is the Lord's - the victory is His. We will seek Him and wrap up in His grace. 

We will stumble - but we will NOT fall. 

can I get an AMEN? 

Our family Bible memory verses this week:
  II Timothy 2: 23- 24 
 "But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.  And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all,
able to teach, patient,"

*if you have struggles within your family and need support and prayer - please feel free to contact me via email with "prayer" in subject line or comments below and I will promise to join you in prayer-  

*please consider joining Amanda and I along with other bloggers in the next online book club -

And I count my blessings . . . 
#350 - special friends who love us 
#351 - encouragement 
#352 - God given resources to seek His wisdom 
#353 - grace, mercy, love beyond my comprehension 
#354 - progress 
#355 - God given strength when I have none 
#356 - praise music 
#357 - Holy Spirit - guidance 
#358 - Pastor's John Cross and Ed Young 
#359 - precious hearts of my children who are learning to seek Him 


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Pamela said...

Yes, an AMEN from me! Prayer is the best foundation of any home. When I'm tempted to help a young mother with wisdom, I turn instead to God. I've seen amazing progress in many homes without {gasp} my involvement. Mothers really do know what their family needs when God is guiding.

Kelli Becton said...

Thanks Pamela - godly wisdom, love, and support - matters too - I'm thankful for special friends in my life who care enough to pray for us and to love us. :)

Lana Wilson said...

Amen Sista!
The Lord is so faithful!
It is amazing how peace comes when we just lay at His feet.
Love you!

Laura Boggess said...

I hear this. Trust your heart...yes, this is good parenting advice. I wish someone had told me this when my boys were small. And lead with prayer. Yes, this is the best advice.

Kelli Becton said...

yes ladies - thanks ;)

Rebecca said...

Kelli, no family is perfect. No parent is perfect. I think we think we should be...and then we expect others to be. Christ died for all of us...we are all sinful from conception....and we are told not to judge. We are called to hold one another accountable...that takes love on both parts, as well as humility. God will carry you through....Love ya, sis!

Amanda @ The Pelsers said...

"No one else knows what is best for our children or what they need - like we do. No one else knows what is best for your children or what they need - like you do. Trust those instincts that God gives and follow His lead. Again - seeking godly counsel is wise - but God's Word and the Holy Spirit must be the final say so!"

Love that! One of big reasons that we choose to homeschool. The public schools and teachers don't really know or have time to really know MY kids.

Kelli Becton said...

Yes yes Amanda and Rebecca - Amen

ells said...

I give testimony...God is faithful...He knows and loves our children more than we do...He has never failed giving the wisdom may not come when I would like...but it always comes...because if we ask for bread He will not give us a stone. are so right...when parents are seeking the Lord, they do know what is best for each child.
And I have seen this...His love and Grace does cover the places I fail...I think as moms...and especially homeschooling moms...we put to much pressure on ourselves to be perfect...create perfect...and in reality...we become God to our children...they don’t need another God...the one they have is perfect:)

Karen said...

Amen and well said! Isn't so easy to look from the outside at a family and think "if only they'd do ___." Praying for your family Kelli.

Alicia said...

Amen! Praying for you as you continue to listen, battle, and seek His wisdom. Thanks for reminding me that when I'm on my knees, I can trust that still small voice inside. Parenting isn't for cowards, is it? May He continue to lead you and your sweet family.

Theresa said...

Ok, so I am crying because I needed to read this post. My family is going through a lot right now and I wake up in the morning more tired than when I went to bed and i feel selfish if I say I can only do so much...I sit here feeling so, so selfish right now...I needed to read this.

Thank you for linking up with Thankful Thursday.

Jennifer @ said...

Beautiful... And I love that photo you've selected to so aptly illustrate the Bible verse.